tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7535071825391596683.post6008470976569537946..comments2023-09-26T11:45:09.893-04:00Comments on Soliloquies: In my dreamsReya Mellickerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7535071825391596683.post-91386028292174559582014-05-13T13:30:19.742-04:002014-05-13T13:30:19.742-04:00Wonderful thoughts!Wonderful thoughts!Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7535071825391596683.post-60454725956833852842014-05-13T11:35:18.708-04:002014-05-13T11:35:18.708-04:00You could have the Paris in your head but you woul...You could have the Paris in your head but you would have to move there, live there, grow into it just like you did when you moved to DC. But I have to ask, why Paris? I understand the desire, drive to visit Poland, the land of your ancestors. But why Paris? Because you had one aunt that lived there?<br /><br />When I turned 50, I threw out all the unfinished projects I had been holding onto for decades thinking one day I would finish them. Turning 50 for me was all about knowing myself. Know thyself. I finally admitted I was never going to finish those projects and it was a relief to throw them out.<br /><br />I had a different but similar experience when I decided I wanted to be a gallery artist and get discovered by the collectors. I struggled and strived and got in some serious debt and spent all my time making things and no time with my grandkids and friends or out in the garden and I was not having fun. When the economy crashed, all my progress was wiped out but not the debt. Part of the snake bite was realizing I had changed once again. I gave up that dream (well, mostly but I did realize I didn't want to or could not produce enough to make that dream a reality). And now when I make those pieces, I'm having fun again.<br /><br />So I guess my answer to your question of how to give up a dream is to know yourself and accept who you are.ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7535071825391596683.post-9363985239029282014-05-13T11:20:33.501-04:002014-05-13T11:20:33.501-04:00Ah, yes. The classic condundrum of expectations vs...Ah, yes. The classic condundrum of expectations vs. reality! It's hard to let go of expectations and just let the experience be whatever it becomes. But I also think we all enjoy things a lot more when we just let them be, rather than try to poke and prod them into being what we WANT them to be.<br /><br />I'm not sure what that means for your specific examples!Steve Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.com